Listening to God is allowing him to actually influence our day to day decision making and growing to care about what He cares about.
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
If you find yourself in a position where you can honestly say, “God has never spoken to me,” then you might ask yourself, Why should God speak to me? What am I doing in life that would make speaking to me a reasonable thing for him to do? Are we in business together in life? Or am I in business just for myself, trying to “use a little God” to advance my projects?